“Lose You To Love Me” – Selena Gomez

[Photo courtesy of the artist via Billboard]

Selena Gomez has returned with the heartfelt ballad “Lose You To Love Me” and news of an upcoming third studio album. Within its first week, the song hit Billboard’s Hot 100 at No. 15 and went to No. 1 on Digital Song Sales. A mere 24 hours after fans heard the new song, she surprised everyone with a second single “Look At Her Now” commenting on Instagram, it’s a “gift to all of my ride or dies!” “Lose You To Love Me” has definitely set the tone for her new era of music and hits on personal life moments over the past year.


“Lose You To Love Me” is a compelling ballad, bolstering all the elements of a pop hit, but in a subdued, compelling way. Gomez sings of lost love and the need to move forward to strengthen yourself, as seen in the pre-chorus,

“We’d always go into it blindly / I needed to lose you to find me / This dancing was killing me softly / I needed to hate you to love me, yeah”

This relationship was toxic, and the only way to move on was letting go of this love. Many fans have speculated this song might be based on her and Justin Bieber’s shaky relationship. In verse two she sings,

“In two months, you replaced us / Like it was easy / Made me think I deserved it / In the thick of healing, yeah”

Gomez neither confirmed nor denied these rumors, but instead, gave her inspiration for writing the song in the YouTube comment section of her music video. “This song was inspired by many things that have happened in my life since releasing my last album. I want people to feel hope and to know you will come out on the other side stronger and a better version of yourself.”

Why Is It a Must Listen?

I began paying attention to this song after I saw country singer Chase Rice applaud it. On Instagram, Rice posted a cover of the song and called it, “my favorite song I’ve heard in a long, long time.” He even went as far as to say it’s “the greatest song on radio right now, besides ‘Lonely If You Are,’ of course,” which is his most recent single.

This spoke volumes to me. He commented he doesn’t really listen to her, but heard “Lose You To Love Me” and believed every word. That is the mark of a great song – when it can impact different genres and styles of music and be praised.  

After listening to the song, I understand what Rice is talking about. She sings with empathy and experience, which makes me want to listen over and over again. I am keeping my eye out for possible more singles and her next album. But, in the meantime, I will be listening to this one, so go and give it a listen!

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